Thinking about this title, I have been wondering who the focus of this write-up should be – girls or guys or both.
In almost every tertiary institution in Nigeria, you find undergraduates of the opposite sex living as husbands and wives.
You find a lot of these misguided people in virtually all schools. It is so bad that, often times, they are duly recognised and acknowledged as couples by lodge neighbours, classmates and even leaders of various students associations.
Little wonder there is such an award as “The best couple of the year award” shamelessly and thoughtlessly received by students.
Like I stated earlier, I really do not know the particular gender to address but let me just keep going.
The rate at which girls live with their boyfriends in their various off campus hostels is painfully alarming. Most times, these young girls are very beautiful, with bright and promising future.
They cohabit with boys who are their fellow students as roommates. The most annoying part of it is that the misguided girl would always introduce the boy still dependent on his parents as her fiancé.
Our society is really sick courtesy of those living in it. These girls collect either hostel fees or house rents from unsuspecting (and sometimes, struggling) parents and end up in the house of a boy.
You struggled possibly for several years to gain admission. Then you suddenly became a prayer warrior posting and shouting ‘Amen’ at the slightest provocation.
You fasted. You had one prayer point filled with promises of your loyalty and devotion to God if only He would answer your prayer.
Now that He has fulfilled His part by answering and granting you admission into the tertiary institution, don’t you think He is expecting you to fulfill your own part, to keep whatever promises you made to Him?
Many of you just got admitted into school and once you settle down (especially from your second year), crazy thoughts will begin to creep into your minds.
Yes by then, the heat of the rush would have been over; If God didn’t capture you (possibly through the various campus fellowships), boys would have caught you.
In my school we even have an unrecognized, unregistered but well offered course . For the guys it is a course that shouldn’t be carried over. Soon, they would persuade you to move in with them.
Of course, they will give you one thousand reasons to make you give in to their prodding. Before you agree to move in and live with a boy on campus, consider the reason why you are in school in the first place.
What image would you be creating about yourself? Can this boy marry you in case you get pregnant for him as is always the case, or will you resort to series of abortions like many other girls before you?
What advice will you give your children in future concerning this kind of things? After school, what next? Will the relationship really lead you anywhere?
This write-up is finally addressing the female folk. I did not plan it this way. Maybe it is because they are the worst hit by the grave consequences of illicit sexual relationships.
They are the ones that turn out to be the sore losers in the end. They call it school life but they do not realize how foolish they have been till it is too late.
You are not in school to get married. Part of the reasons why you are in school IS NOT to get the husband-and-wife experience, to see what it feels like for the boy to provide the money for food and for the girl to go to the market for food stuff and cook.
That is pure misplacement of purpose! One guy told me that he was practically learning how to be a caring and romantic husband. Shameless indeed! Then you hear the girl say, “We are not doing anything, we are just roommates”.
Yet she commits countless abortions before graduation. Yes, your admission has given you unlimited freedom. Yes, your parents are not there to tell you what to do or what not to do.
There are even no blood relatives around, so there is no fear of someone reporting you. But what about giving your womanhood respect and protecting your dignity?
What about living in such a way as to have a positive story to tell the next generation (including your children) without your conscience pricking you? What Goes Around Will Definitely Come Around….
Why not exercise a moment of thorough thinking?…
– By Bibian Onwuka